Jun 17, 2014 - 02:21 PM
Here is my take on this subject. (even a little late, because you can share this with them)
In the law of God there is such a thing as a second or third witness. How does this work?
Faith is the hearing of God’s voice, so if one has faith they hear from God directly. But this direct hearing is not always easy, for many times we do not know if we are really hearing from God or if our canal mind is playing a trick on us. Thus in many cases, we are not sure if we have indeed heard from God. So in this case God has placed in His law the law of the second or third witness.
If you believe that you have heard from God and are to do something, but you are not absolutely sure, you may ask God for a double witness to this event. For example, if God told you to move, but you were not sure that this is what God wanted you to do, you then pray for God to give you another witness to the move. If your wife then comes to you, and independently of your input suggest that you need to move, you have a double witness to the move.
But if she does not share in the desire to move, then the matter must be put on hold until a double witness has confirmed God’s word.
A marriage is a three way contract between the husband, the wife and God. If the marriage is one of fellowship, then the husband and the wife will go to God with their desires, and if their desires come about, then it was a blessing of God. The marriage is by design, set up to apply the double witness system before God. So if both the husband and the wife agree to go to MacDonald's, then to MacDonald's we will go. But if one of the two does not wish to go to MacDonald’s, then the matter must be put to rest until an agreement has been established by both parties. This is the case for all events.
The idea that the wife must obey and follow the wishes of the husband is an Old Covenant marriage. The New Covenant marriage is one of agreement, for neither one should be the boss, both should differ to God for an answer and allow God to be the boss of the relationship.
You suggest that the wife is the one coming to a worldly decision, how can you be so sure? I am not saying one way or another but it seems to me that you have made up your mind based on Old Covenant practices, not New Covenant practices. To be sure most denominations to not understand the New Covenant ways, so it is easy to see why this has been missed.
It is my opinion (my opinion only mind you) that both parties of the marriage must come to an agreement as to move or not, and both parties must seek the will of the Father in this decision. If neither one does this, then Christian or not, they are disobeying the New Covenant marriage laws. Only when both parties come to the same conclusion do they then make the move, but until then they are to wait on the Lord.
Hope this helps…